I’ve done a lot of thinking about the elusive “Work-Life Balance”. How is it that a scant, five to ten percent of American workers seem to be able to shuffle a huge amount of work and still have great personal lives? In my experience, the majority of American workers fall into one of two categories:
- Focuses on work, work, work. Excels in work. Climbs the corporate ladder and makes big money. Fails to have a really great social life. Family life is fair to midland at best. Doesn’t have a phenomenal relationship with kids and bond with a spouse is just “functional.”
- Great family person. Has a wonderful relationship with the kids and the spouse. Involved in many community activities. Has hobbies. Goes on trips and spends time with family and friends. Barely makes it in the business world though. Middle-class income level at best. Punches a nine to five and doesn’t really do much more than that. Makes enough money to provide for the family’s basic necessities and that’s all.
Why does a person have to choose between one or the other? Why can’t someone do both? Why is it that when a person works really hard and tries to excel at work and gets stressed out does it then come back and bite the person when they are at home? Why does a person suffer or not advance at work, simply because that person is so focused on spending time with their family? I don’t like nor do I approve of this arrangement at all.
How NOT to Get Stressed Out
I don’t want you to be stressed out at work. I don’t want you to be stressed out anywhere. I have some tips for you and perhaps some things that you can apply to your day to day life that will make your work a little less stressful, and that will thusly make your home life a little more enjoyable too:
- When you are work, work. Want to know the single most important tool that the really successful people do that makes them so successful? They work so hard. They don’t just punch the clock and “get through the day.” Oh no, when they are at work they are always working, finishing projects, moving quickly, working while they eat, working while they commute, work, work, work.
- On the same token, successful people do not become totally engrossed in their work 24/7. Don’t take your work home with you! Focus on not how many hours a week you work, but on how much you actually get done in those hours.
- Successful people engage their free time in exciting and exhilarating activities. Successful, stress-free people go to the gym instead of watch TV. Successful and stress-free people get out and about and go for walks with their families rather than play video games. Successful people take day trips on the weekend instead of stay at home. Successful people work on home improvement projects in their free time instead of sitting around. Being active in your home life is a key to not only beating stress but to also feeling more energized and more pumped for when it does become time to get back to work again.
- Successful people and stress-free people do not get distracted easily. When they are at work, they work. When they are at home, they are at home with their families and loved ones. Keep the two separated. That is key. Stress comes from dragging your home life into your work, and your work life into your home. Just keep them separated!
A More Successful, Happier Life
Get your family to support you. Get your co-workers and superiors to see you as a valuable asset to the business. Do these things and you will be successful in the long run. Just make it go right to really excel in the things that you do and you will be quite ready and quite capable of winning time and time again in both your life at home and in your life at work.